Living with tube feeding or TPN (feeding to the heart via a central vein), has a significant impact on loved ones who care for and about them. Helping to look after not just the feeding or infusions themselves, but also to assist with the tubes, lines, stomas etc that are needed. Dealing with unexpected problems that inevitably occur and liaising with healthcare professionals. As well as managing the practicalities of delivery of feeds and equipment, stock orders, and storage. It’s a lot to navigate in any relationship. We asked a husband/carer of a person on Home Parenteral Nutrition and a parent of a baby on Home Enteral Nutrition to give us some insight into their perspectives…
Husband / Carer Perspective (HPN)
Working full-time, being a husband and carer for someone on Home Parenteral Nutrition (HPN) is something of a challenge. Things have to run well, if not something has to give. Will the Total Parenteral Nutrition (TPN) delivery allow me to fit in that visit to a client in the community that needs to be seen? Will the GP surgery have sent the correct prescription to the pharmacy this time or will I need to go back to the surgery, explain again to the receptionist that yes it is urgent and necessary? Will my manager understand that if there is an unplanned admission or medical emergency, I need to be there? How do I strike the balance between supporting my wife and supporting my team and how will I get time to see my good friend for a game of pool and a pint?
It is difficult to articulate the struggle to manage competing demands and priorities, but well that is what we do day in day out. If only the system would work a little more smoothly it would help a great deal.
Parent Perspective (HEN)
I am a Mum of a baby who has had to have an NG tube for feeding and medications. As a parent the hardest thing is seeing how distressed my daughter becomes when inserting the tube as she can gag and it irritates her throat. I’m also aware she does not get to taste her food. Before any liquid is put down the NG tube, I need to ensure the tube has not moved from her stomach. Aspirate from the stomach needs to be drawn up from through the tube and the PH tested to ensure the liquid is acidic, which confirms the end of the tube is in the stomach. It would be very dangerous to put liquid down the tube if it had moved, particularly if the tube had moved into the lungs. Sometimes it can be hard to obtain aspirate, perhaps because the tube is not far down enough in the stomach, the tube has moved out of the stomach or it is stuck to the stomach wall. It can be distressing when your baby is upset and hungry, and you can’t feed your baby as you’ve not yet obtained any aspirate.
It does get easier with time though, as you get more practised and confident in using the tube. I’ve had a very conflicted relationship with the tube; I am very grateful my baby can be fed and I know she’s getting enough milk. At the same time, I hate that she needs it, she doesn’t like it (so often tries to pull it out) and that other people might treat her differently for it.
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We’ve put together a double sided information card to promote awareness about the existence of hidden medical accessories, as well as basic information about the different medical appliances and devices, that people may have. Its handy business card size, means single or multiple cards can be carried around in a bag or wallet and used if and when an occasion arises. We’ve also produced an A4 poster with the same information, for places where a static sheet or leaflet would be useful. Both can be downloaded by clicking on the relevant PDF below.
The card and leaflet are particularly aimed at those situations where those of us with hidden accessories can be negatively appraised, challenged or simply misunderstood. Using disabled facilities is a frequent context where this can occur, but there are also many other times when greater understanding and awareness would be helpful. It can be difficult in the moment to know what to say. Sometimes it is just a shake of the head and disapproving look we receive. Those with medical accessories should not have to feel they need give personal information to explain themselves, unless they want to. The recipient will not know which medical appliance / device you have. The card quietly asks others to reappraise the situation, while you go on your way. The front side of the card can also be used alone if preferred. We hope that the recipients understanding will then be carried forward to future situations.
For some people, in addition to choosing the right medical appliances, accessorising in some way can help bring them a sense of ownership, personalisation, incorporation, reclaimation, humour, individuality, beauty, or style, (to name but a few), to their body and accessory. The links and features here explore how others have done this, including those who offer a service to make accessories for other ostomates and tubies.
Just line it up so the pad is over the tubing and stick either side as normal. It will allow a small amount of give, so that the tubing can move with your movement.
The plasters that work best for this are ones where the pad covers the whole of the centre of the plaster. Other than that, you can choose whatever you like, from plain colours, to patterns, characters, words and sayings.
If you’re having trouble with lengths of tubing externally then a simple clasp with a piece of ribbon or material, will achieve the same effect; securing it while still allowing a little natural movement. There is no sewing involved, just cut the ribbon or material to size. Push it through the clasp, and put a piece of stick on Velcro on the ends so you can bring them together.
The clasp will clip to your clothing and then you can place the IV or enteral line between the material and close. It can be removed quickly and easily as necessary. Again, you can choose whatever material or ribbon that suits you.
In addition to their practically purpose, they come in a huge variety of different designs, colours and even shapes. Making it another great way of personalising your stoma. Once again, you don’t need sewing skills of your own as folks in the tubie community sell them online. GroovyTubies hand-make a range of tubie pads (pictured) here in the UK. They even make glow in the dark pads! Different types of backing material are available. You can find them